Shameless Sex

What is a “relationship/sex life reboot”? What are some of the main reasons why women and/or couples find themselves in a place that needs a reboot, and is this the same as a "sexless" marriage or relationship? How do hormones tie into all of this? Are there any preventative measures people can take to avoid entering the “I/We need a reboot”? And what about DIY ways people can do on their own when they are in the “help, I need a reboot” space?  About our guest: Dolly Josette is a somatic sex coach, sexological bodyworker, and founder of Relationship Reboot: a private retreat in Nashville, Tennessee for women and couples. With a focus on intimacy enhancement and embodiment, Relationship Reboot teaches clients how to have the best, most connected sex of their lives. Through embodiment coaching, somatic exercises, and sexological bodywork, Dolly helps clients heal sexual shame, and listen to their body’s subtle cues for safety, arousal and expansive desire. She has been called “a sexual midwife” and a “consummat

In this episode we chat with dear friend and fellow sex educator Tracy Felder. Tracy has traveled the world and has years of experience mastering the art of "sex on the road". From optimizing your (sexual) health while traveling, sex on airplanes, knowing what should be in your sexy travel kit, safety regulations with sex toys, and staying connected to partners from afar, listen to this episode to get your road time sexy on. About our guest: On a mission to spread her sex-positive skills at a national level, Tracy’s career path has led her to COTR, Inc., where she serves as Product Education Director. Working alongside company founder and CEO Alicia Sinclair, Tracy is proud to represent the female-led manufacturer of cutting-edge premium pleasure product brands. With her sights set on promoting sexual wellness, self-care, and acceptance of all gender identities and sexualities, Tracy has also became a certified sex educator. Tracy believes that by embracing oneself sexually and sharing that with a partner(s)

Why is it so important to create a safe erotic space for bi and bi curious women (as compared to other sex parties)? What actually happens at Skirt Club parties? Why do a lot of people feel bisexuality is an “invisible” orientation? Who are all women play parties for? And how can people talk to their partners about wanting to attend Skirt Club (or explore bisexuality in general)?  About our guest: Genevieve is the founder of Skirt Club, a private members club for bi-curious & bisexual women. With more than 24,000 members globally, women are more interested in each other than ever. Born in England and raised in Hong Kong, Genevieve has lived in many of the world’s major cities. Her career has spanned financial marketing, sales, branding and journalism. Ten years ago she left her corporate days in finance behind, to pursue a vision of advancing women’s sexual confidence. Genevieve was the first to curate luxurious global events where women can put their own desires first, and gain confidence from the bedroom to

What is the purpose of pheromones? What do they do and how do they work in the body? Do pheromones change based on hormones? Is it true that certain people’s pheromones are not for us? Is there anything that can be done when pheromones don't feel aligned? Is the universe saying this person isn’t compatible with me? About our guest: Jacqui Rubinoff is a dynamic entrepreneur and relationship expert with a profound passion for promoting healthy and fulfilling connections between individuals. With over a decade of dedicated work, Jacqui has made a significant mark in the international market, having successfully built a brand that spans over 20 countries. As an owner and the Vice President of Eye of Love, a distinguished company specializing in high-quality sensual products, Jacqui is at the forefront of creating innovative solutions to enhance people's love lives. Her products, which include vegan and cruelty-free pheromone perfumes and body products, are crafted with meticulous attention to detail, reflecting h

What is ED, what are the main causes, and who does it affect? What are some of the common treatments and exercises that can help with blood flow issues that cause ED? Is Scrotox really Botox for the balls? What does it do and does it really work? What about Botox for the penis? Is it a thing and how can it help with erections? How does a person’s mental health (stress/depression/anxiety) have an effect on ED just as much as a person’s physiological health? And can people who have experienced prostate cancer still have a bright sexual future? About our guest: Dr. Gittens is one of the country’s leading specialists in sexual function for men and women, hormone replacement, male infertility and wellness. He is a board certified urologist, fellowship trained specifically in sexual medicine and male infertility. He is also a clinical associate professor in obstetrics and gynecology. He founded the Rockwell Centers for Sexual Medicine & Wellness in Philadelphia, New York, and Lehigh Valley (formerly Centers for Sex

How has the porn industry shifted over the past 20 years, and how is it that Hollywood still gets it wrong when it comes to intimacy? What are the most common fantasies that women have based on their top porn interests? What about men/other genders? If I identify as a feminist and yet I’m super attracted to porn that involves dominance and submission, and maybe even some rough sex, can I still be a feminist while thinking this is hot? How can gang bang scenes (and gang bangs in general) be empowering? Can the woman receiving all the D be in control? About our guest: Erika Lust is an award-winning indie erotic filmmaker who creates sex-positive adult cinema by portraying relatable characters and realistic hot sex, going beyond gender stereotypes and harmful fetishization to offer a ground-breaking alternative to mass-produced mainstream porn. Over the past 20 years, the Erika Lust brand has gone from strength to strength. Erika has directed 6 feature films and series, over 130 short films, and produced around

In this episode Amy talks about our current favorite sex toys including Amy's mom's favorite, which just might be your mom's kryptonite too. From pussy toys to cock stimulators, Amy shares all about what's getting us off in 2024, as well as how to find the right sex toy for you. For toy references: Check out the Womanzier with air-pulse technology here (and get 20% off with code SPRINGWOMAN20*), or: https://www.purepleasureshop.com/search?q=womanizer* Check out the VIM wand by Fun Factory here (and get 15% off with code SHAMELESSSEX), or: https://www.purepleasureshop.com/products/fun-factory-vim-wand-midnight-blue?_pos=1&_sid=8942195e8&_ss=r Check out the Miss Bi dual stimulator by Fun Factory here (and get 15% off with code SHAMELESSSEX), or: https://www.purepleasureshop.com/search?q=Miss%20bi* Check out the Solo by Hot Octopuss here (and get 15% off with code SHAMELESSSEX), or: https://www.purepleasureshop.com/products/hot-octopuss-pulse-solo-interactive?_pos=5&_sid=0443a83be&_ss=r

What’s the truth about being single? The good, the bad, the ugly? Why is being single at some point in your adult life important? How can single people become “single and stoked”? What are the steps or what does it take to love single life? What if I’m single and want to stay that way for a while. How can I navigate casual sex without getting into a relationship? And what if I’m single and looking for a LTR? Top tips for navigating sex and dating from this perspective? About our guest: Brianne Hogan is a Canadian writer, author, and podcast host. She has written for over 60 publications, including The Washington Post, the BBC, Elle Canada, Shondaland, Men’s Health, BuzzFeed, HelloGiggles, among others. She’s a regular contributor for Scary Mommy, Lifehacker, SheKnows and Parents, writing mainly in the relationship and lifestyle space. Google “Brianne Hogan and dating” and you’ll find articles ranging from “Easy First Date Ideas” to “How to Flirt” to “How to Date After Divorce.” Ironically, however, she's been

Amy Merrill is an artist/activist at the intersection of creative communications, technology, and social change. In 2015, she co-founded Plan C to transform access to abortion pills by mail in the US, and under her co-leadership Plan C has grown to an annual audience of millions on an award-winning website, press reach in the billions, nationwide partnerships in research, creative and tech and “Plan C” as a household term for abortion pills. She was named in Fast Company’s 2023 Most Creative People in Business, serves as advisor for new gen-z emergency contraception brand Julie and new abortion chatbot Charley, and was an inaugural member of the Buckminster Fuller Institute’s Design Science Studio in 2020. Amy holds 20+ years navigating complex social issues, from human trafficking to economic injustice to gender equity: which led to reproductive health and access as a current focus. Her design studio Eyes Open leads creative communications for purpose-driven individuals and organizations. She is based in the

This episode is all about kissing, smooching, making out, and doing the nasty tongue dance. Repeat guests and relationship experts Alicia and Erwan Davon teach us all about the skills needed to be a great kisser, how to match your lover's kissing style, what to do if your partner is just so so in the kissing department, as well as hickeys, spitting, and if there's such thing as too much tongue About our guests: Erwan and Alicia Davon have become the go- to experts for those seeking a higher level of relationship support. Erwan is the founder, senior teacher and president of San Francisco based The Davon Method. Together with Alicia, who has a Masters in Psychology and training as a therapist, they specialize in supporting singles in getting into passionate and successful relationships, and helping couples take their relationships to new heights of romance and intimacy.  Based in the SF Bay Area, Erwan and Alicia provide a high end boutique service that gives their clients an effective way to enhance their rel

What non-hormonal options are available to prevent pregnancy OR increase fertility/support getting pregnant? What are some of the most common issues or health risks from using hormonal birth control? What is missing in the common fertility nutrition advice out there today, and why can it be problematic? What do both ancestral practices and modern research suggest to be optimal for female and male fertility when it comes to macronutrients, micronutrients, meal timing/spacing, and so on? And what are some of the specific recommendations for nutrient-dense foods to emphasize as well as ingredients to avoid to support fertility? Are there any specific diets that are more supportive than others? About our guest: Lisa Hendrickson-Jack is a certified Fertility Awareness Educator and Holistic Reproductive Health Practitioner who teaches women to chart their menstrual cycles for natural birth control, conception, and monitoring overall health. She is the author of three bestselling books: Real Food For Fertility (co-a

This is a continuation of episode #338 Soft Cock Play and Why We Love Them (which is also our top viewed video on YouTube!). You asked, so we are answering by responding to the following questions: why are “you” women able to talk about soft cocks and penis owners' bodies in general? Why is reframing sex so important when it comes to soft cocks? What are the techniques that encourage blood flow AND increase pleasure and fun? What do I do when my partner is in a downward spiral regarding their own soft cock? What do I do if my partner doesn’t want to be part of the problem solving for my soft cock? And what about soft cocks as a symptom of prostate issues/cancer/diabetes? About our guests: Erica Leroye, M.Ed (she/her/they) is the Founder and "Chief Erotic Officer" of Creative Body Release, a philosophy and methodology that is built upon 30+ years of body/mind training and educational expertise across the lifespan. Erica is a Certified Sexological Bodyworker, Human Development Specialist, Healing Arts professio

This bonus ad-free episode is a 10 minute teaser from one of our favorite sex-ed podcasts Sex Ed with DB. DB sits down with Dr. Lexx Brown-James, therapist and sexologist, to shed light on maintaining healthy conflict resolution, intimacy, and communication in a long-term relationship. They also dive into Dr. Lexx's work in the world of sex-positive parenting, unraveling what it means and how to address personal trauma and therapy's role in the journey towards becoming a sex-positive parent. In a world where sex education is often shrouded in fear, Dr. Lexx guides breaks down how provide shame-free sex education to our children, fostering a future of non-judgmental understanding of sex. Listen to the full episode here More about Sex Ed with DB: Sex Ed with DB is a feminist podcast bringing you all the sex ed you never got through unique and entertaining storytelling, centering LGBTQ+ and BIPOC experts. We discuss topics such as birth control, pleasure, LGBTQ+ health and rights, abortion, consent, BDSM, sex a

Learn why King "Daddy" Heff says “In submission there is freedom. In dominance there is responsibility”. King Heff also teaches us how to be more dominant in the bedroom, how to master the sensual art of impact play (spanking), as well as the in's and outs (pun intended) of anal training. About our guest: King Heff is a sexual enhancement product specialist from Charlotte, NC. A strong believer and promoter of positive, honest, & healthy sexual relationships, King Heff is the creator of Pink Heffs & Black Heffs; a line of all natural sexually stimulating supplement vitamins designed to help strengthen and improve the sex lives of both women and men. Unique in nature, the product line, which is comprised of the Pink Heffs The Original Vagina Vitamin for women & Black Heffs God Dick Pill for men, offers individuals an organic option for intense, long lasting, intimate pleasure. King Heff aka Daddy Heff is also a Professional Dom who specializes in the Sensual Side of BDSM. He educates men/women/couples at The S

Trigger warning! This episode is about genital mutilation, female (and male) and circumcision, healing after physiological trauma in and around the genitals, and most importantly how to repair sexual function. Repeat guests and sexual health specialists Dr. Castillo and Remy Paille, NP teach us about the modern day medical technology and tools that can help just about anyone reclaim their pleasure. About our guests: Dr. Castillo is a Fellowship-trained Female Pelvic Medicine specialist. As founder and director of Swan Medical Intimate Wellness in Los Gatos, CA, he is dedicated to improving common quality of life conditions that affect millions of women. Dr Castillo completed his OB/GYN residency at St Barnabas Medical Center in NJ then went on to complete a three year Fellowship in Reconstructive Pelvic Surgery and Female Pelvic Medicine at the Cleveland Clinic Foundation. After 5 years of clinical practice at Kaiser Permanente where his duties involved overseeing resident research and education and teaching

What is ethical non-monogamy and how does it differ culture to culture? Why is it important to consider how BIPOC folks experience ENM, marriage, and sexuality as a whole? What cultural stereotypes about sexuality still exist to this day for BIPOC folks? And what are some tools and top tips for people who are new to ENM? About our guest: Taylor Sparks, also known as Mariposa, is an erotic educator and sex goddess and is a dedicated coach specializing in ethical non-monogamy and intimate relationships. With a fervent commitment to empowering individuals, Taylor brings her extensive knowledge as an erotic educator and certified expert in holistic aromatherapy and human behavior to guide people on their journey. Drawing upon more than two decades of experience in the natural skincare and cosmetics industry, Taylor, introduced the world to OrganicLoven.com—the largest BIPOC owned online intimacy shop. Organic Loven stands as a beacon of sexual health and wellness, offering organic intimate body products, body-saf

This episode is intended to continue the conversation we had on #359 with Gigi Engle. You asked us to host a neuroscientist to discuss what’s happening in the brain during compulsive use of sex and porn, and repeat guest Dr. Nan Wise is the perfect fit for this discussion. Dr. Nan shares her definition of sex and porn addiction and whether or not it’s real (spoiler alert - she says it’s VERY real for some people). She explains what’s happening in the brain when someone starts to consume sex and porn compulsively, as well as when it turns into an addiction. She takes this even further by explaining how to know if your own behavior has become compulsive and some of the best modalities for healing or reclaiming your sexuality, as well as what to do if you suspect your partner’s behaviors are problematic. About our guest: Nan Wise, Ph.D., is a cognitive neuroscientist, professor, licensed psychotherapist, certified sex therapist, board-certified clinical hypnotherapist, and certified relationship specialist. Afte

Why is sexual confidence so important in great sex and relationships? How can I gain more sexual confidence? What is body neutrality and how is it different from “loving yourself”? What if I don’t think I’m hot or sexy? How can I discover my inner sexy beast? The internet's resident sexpert Dr. Tara answers all this, and to add a little more spice to the subject we also pick her brain about her top tips for sex positions. About our guest: Dr. Tara Suwinyattichaiporn, a pioneering expert in sexual and relational communication, is a tenured professor at California State University Fullerton. Her groundbreaking research, showcased in her textbook "Sexual Communication: Research in Action," has earned her awards and recognition. She is also a co-host and sexpert on the UK’s popular TV show “Celebs Go Dating.” As a sex and relationship coach, Dr. Tara hosts the acclaimed "Luvbites by Dr. Tara" Podcast, focusing on sexual wellness and exploration. Her influence spans various media outlets, including features in KTL

What is... The “Whorearchy” and how is it related to the social expectations that drive sex-related commerce? A secrecy kink and how is it connected to our creative and sexual expression? An erotic bucket list and how can people create their own? The benefit of experiencing rejection, and how can people learn to better handle it when it comes? About our guest: Our guest today is Wyoh Lee, a photographer, researcher and creative educator dedicated to making the world a sexier, more loving place. Since 2013, she has helped people embrace their full range of creative self-expression—including sex, our “original creativity”. She supports individuals, couples and moresomes in understanding and prioritizing their desires through personalized breakthrough sessions and retreats that might include writing, photography, video, paint, collage, music, movement, talk, touch and/or whatever other medium feels relevant to the goal. On her podcast Sex Stories, guests share details of their personal and/or work-related histor

Where did the idea of “happily ever after” or “finding the one” even come from in the first place? Is it even obtainable? What are some of the common myths that people buy into regarding dating and relationships? What are some of the ways people can break free from those dating myths and create the dating or love life they truly desire? About our guest: Damona Hoffman is a celebrity dating coach, host of the award-winning podcast Dates & Mates, and the official love expert of The Drew Barrymore Show. She has written dating columns for the LA Times and the Washington Post and worked as a dating expert and spokesperson for top dating apps including OkCupid, Match, and Bumble. She lives in Los Angeles with her husband and two children. In F The Fairytale, Damona Hoffman dismantles the dating habits and beliefs that have been leading us astray—those notions of instant chemistry and the relentless quest for "the One." She points out how modern daters are clinging to outdated rulebooks that served our grandparents